So Long, Farewell: Amber Bids You Adieu

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

-Carol Sobiesk

You know those women who work 40+ hours outside their home, are PTA president, have children that look like Gap Kids models, can hold a perfect tree pose in yoga without wobbling, have no maid but could pass a white-glove test and do all of that while managing to put a hot home-cooked meal on the table each night and simultaneously cultivate a home full of love and laughter? Well I’m not one of them. Not even close.

Way back in April of 2009, back when we were still a blogspot with just a handful of readers, a friend of mine (who you know and love as Monica) emailed me and asked if I would like to post a time or two on this here blog. As a recent coupon convert, I was ready and eager. Fast forward almost 3 and a half years later and I never could have imagined that blogging for Fabulessly Frugal would be my career. But here I sit. I eat, breath and dream coupons. And for that very reason, I have to hang up my hat.

You see, quite simply put, I suck at multitasking. When my 2nd daughter was born, I stopped climbing the corporate ladder and put my career on hold to focus on being a mommy. I can’t be a successful career woman and an adequate mom at the same time. I fail at one or the other (or both most days). So I quit to focus on being a full-time mom. And then Fabulessly Frugal fell into my lap. It was such an amazing opportunity. I could share what I loved doing with others, work from the comfort of my own home and even make a little money. It was, to say the least, a dream job. But then that little blog began to grow. And grow. And grow. And that growth was amazing and exciting all rolled into one. We felt blessed. We felt giddy. We felt lucky.

But as the site grew, so did the workload involved in keeping a successful site successful. My 5 hour a week job became a full-time career. And then one day I looked around to see a neglected house, a neglected husband and a most importantly, two neglected little girls who desperately needed a full-time mom. And I realized I had to make a choice. A hard choice. A sad choice. An absolutely necessary choice.

Remember that PTA Wonder Woman mom I referenced above? I know many women like that. There are even women who work on this blog that fall into that category. Many of my best friends epitomize that woman. They make working full-time and raising a family seem simple. They are my heroes and who I aspire to become. But I’m not built that way. So I am bowing out gracefully (not completely, as I’ll still be spending a few hours a month handling advertising. So you’ll see a post from me pop up from time to time).

But know this: I have loved helping you learn to coupon over these past few years. I’ve enjoyed getting to know many of you lovely readers, bumping into you at the store from time to time and seeing your couponing successes. And I will miss the heck out of you! There will certainly be a bit of a void in my life for awhile. I might even fill that void by blogging again on my family blog (which you’re welcome to keep up with me on, but you’ll never see mention of a coupon or a sale, so be warned!).

I wish all of you great couponing success, and very frugal and full lives!

Hugs,

Amber

Comments

  • LA

    I understand! Follow your heart. God Bless you for putting your family first. Go make a house a little more like home.

  • Kari

    Kudos! Thank you for sharing your story, your journey, your talents – and I believe more importantly – your priorities. We appreciate your work teaching us (I’ve only just begun), but my girls are teens & I am so proud of you! In all sincerity. Proud. Motherhood goes by so fast & they’re only little a short while. Congratulations on your decision & all the best! ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Mariela

    We’ll miss you but it’s good that you’re attending to your family, after all that’s why we coupon in the first place to make life better and easier for our families, so when they need you you go to them, that makes you sound like super lady to me ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Daleene Fox

    Oh Amber, How you will be missed. Even though I rarely comment on this blog anymore. I still follow it like a stalker. I have loved each and every one of you gals for many years now and I am happy to say I was one of those few followers from your blogspot. I would never have saved my family thousands of dollars a year if it had not been for you guys. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and you will be missed. But I totally understand about the neglecting the house, hubby and kids. I got to a point where I haven’t completely given up on couponing, but I have scaled back… way back. Thank you and good luck!! MWAH!!!

  • Lovely job lady. We’ll miss you to pieces! XOXO <3

  • Yahoo! I mean, sad, but I am super excited for you to get back to your family blog. And come visit me more often!

  • Char

    Go get out of here, That way you wont regret it when the kids are older. I cant tell you how much I regret all the school plays, baseball games, teacher conferences and on and on I missed because of work. Kids are all grown up and have kids on their own now. So Run dont walk . Know that you are doing the right thing.

  • Helen in Meridian

    Amber, I will truly miss your reports. You always submitted really good quality recipes too. Also I had never heard of Paleo until you posted about your recent conversion. I always looked forward to everything you posted, and the photos of your cute blonde family. Know how much we will miss you here.

  • Debbie Rioux

    You are making the right choice family first best wishes.

  • Sarah, A Thrifty Mom

    Amber you were such a blast to hang out with and get to know. So happy to have you as a friend, I sure will miss your posts each week. But your little girls are sure lucky to have more of your time!!!!! Wishing you the best of luck in all you do!

  • Ame

    Thank you for all the great deals over the many years!

  • Margaret

    What an adorable photo for your send-off! (Love Becky in the background) You will be missed! I’m going to have to find other Charmin fetishists to canoodle with now! ๐Ÿ™‚ Be well lovely lady, we’ll miss you!

  • You are a great mom and wife. I am sure this was hard for you but I believe you are making a wise decision. They are only small once so enjoy. I wish you well.

  • Dawn

    Best of luck Amber! You will be missed!

  • mel

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  • Lindsay Hendricks

    I dont really know you , just that I have stalked the blog forever too and enjoyed your posts, but your post brought tears to my eyes because I know exactly how you feel. I am pregnant with my fourth baby and I have a little business and sometimes it is out of control and I am forced to ignore my sweet little kids. I am thinking that you are a great mom and wife, my house is never like other ladies houses I walk into and my hair is always in a ponytail and when I read some crazy moms blogs about all the crafts and perfect things they do with their children I get a little depressed. You are doing the right thing you know that and that is how I know you are a great mother and wife the hard part is comparing ourselves yes when we compare our whole self to everyone’s perfect parts we see we will never measure up. Dont know if I am making sense but I do this all the time so when I read your post that part also hit home and I am sure that your fmaily thinks you are the greatest mom ever and wife and there are probably plenty of people who look up to you and are thinking they wish they could handle all that you handle as well as you do.

  • Monica

    I admire you for making a tough decision. We will miss you.

  • Ang

    I have loved the time we have worked together. It’s so funny what a small world we live in that we even have had some of the same friends over the years yet, never met until FabulesslyFrugal. I love your wit and humor! You are a great example of always seeing the silver lining in a storm. I wish you all the love and luck and dreams in the world! Go and make beautiful memories with your family! Thanks for all you have taught me and for becoming a wonderful friend! Okay great Amber, now you made me cry! I’ll miss ya lots chickie!

  • Stacy

    Amazing Amber! You will never regret putting family first! You are such an example for so many. Have fun with your family!!!

  • Ann

    Hi Amber, I only found this amazing site a few weeks ago, so I am honestly still sifting through all the fabulous info here. In reading this farewell post for you, I noticed that it said you had started a Paleo lifestyle. My doctor just recently told me to start this diet as I have some health problems he believes this will fix for me.

    My question is: Do you have a “Paleo Journal” blog or something posted somewhere about your journey, and/or other information. I really could use some help with motivation and info to get me started!! It’s hard!!

    Thanks…just wondering if you had another blog about paleo or, if you have time, could possibly recommend a blog for me to follow for inspiration?!?

    Good luck to your new endeavor focusing more on mommy, wife, and house priorities!!! Good for you to realize what so many of us forget….that we stay home, coupon, etc FOR our families…not to take away from them.

    Thanks for your help,
    Ann

  • Robin

    Amber, I love that you are putting family first. I know that couponing can take over, finding a good balance is what’s best for your family. I know first hand, just couponing can be so addicting, I couldn’t imagine if it was my job too. I have learned to better balance couponing in my life, and it shows, my cupboards aren’t quite as stocked as before, but my kids are happier, my house is cleaner, and I feel so much better too. There is no deal worth running after if you are having to sacrifice your family time for it! Kudos girl! You have made a wise decision!

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