I Can’t vs I Don’t Eat Sugar!

I Can’t vs I Don’t Eat Sugar!

There is a difference. Can you hear it? Can you feel it?

Above you see my friend Cathy. Doesn’t she look incredible? So much younger and healthier. Can you believe she had 8 children? She understands this idea that I am about to share.

Last year when I was about 6 months into my own health journey I stumbled upon a book called Successful People Think Differently in my audible account. In the book the author introduced the idea that there is power in using the phrase “I don’t” rather than “I can’t”. I loved this idea and really tried to implement in my life. It is so empowering to say “I don’t”. It makes you feel smart and in control. On the other hand saying “I can’t” feels like you are a slave to someone else. Like some other force is making you do something you may or may not want to do. It sounds so uncommitted and weak.
This morning I was thinking about the new participants in our Fitness Challenge. They are on day 2. The first few days of the challenge can be the hardest. Your body is going through a detox of sugar, caffeine, carbs and junk. Your cravings get intense and you can start to feel like a slave to your diet. Especially if you are telling yourself, “I can’t have sugar, I can’t eat dessert”. Instead try, “I don’t eat sugar. I don’t eat dessert”. Doesn’t that feel so much more empowering? You can even follow it up with a positive affirmation, “I fuel my body with foods that will make me strong and give me energy”.

To be really real with you it would not be true for me to say that I don’t eat sugar. I still love treats, but I don’t crave them as much as I used to and I don’t eat them as much as I used to. So here is a true statement for me. “80% of the time I don’t eat sugar”. My body feels better when I don’t eat sugar. I have more energy, I am headache free, I have less aches and pains. But sometimes I want a treat, and I do not like the feeling that I can’t have something. So I allow myself to have a treat now and then, but 80% of the food I put in my body is healthy whole foods. Wow! Giving myself that little wiggle room has really made a difference for me. It helps me feel like I am in control. Because of the wiggle room there are many days that I don’t have any sugar.

This idea can be applied to many aspects of life. I like the idea of teaching it to my kids when it comes to avoiding drugs and alcohol. A teen that says, “I don’t drink alcohol” is forming an identity for himself. A teen that says, “I can’t drink alcohol” sounds like he is being ruled over by his parents. Such an empowering phrase to teach your kids.

So my friends as you experience changes or challenges in your life consider empowering yourself with the phrase, “I don’t”. I am sure you will find yourself more successful if you do!

I recommend reading or listening to this book Successful People Think Differently available on kindle unlimited for FREE also on audible and paperback. It is less than 1 hour long on audio so it is a quick read. The author discusses several more ideas that successful people think differently.



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  • After ten months of no sugar, alcohol, junk food or high carb foods, I can pass on the good news that in time a lot of what you may crave now will not only lose its appeal, it will make you feel downright sick. Over the holidays I made cream cheese brownies for a party. All I did was lick the spoons and my fingers and, oooh, unhappy tum-tum. Needless to say, I wasn’t foolish enough to try an actual brownie. I may be crazy but I’m not stupid.

  • Yes I agree. Once your body detoxes from all the crap you really notice when you eat something you shouldn’t. Before the detox you were just used to feeling like crap all the time.

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