FABULESSLY FRUGAL FRIDAY: A New Year’s Resolution?
In honor of the New Year we are bringing back one of our popular new year posts….
I had a troubling conversation with a good friend of mine the other day. She told me she felt like a complete failure last year. She had set some pretty lofty New Year’s Resolutions & had failed. Repeatedly. The majority of them were financial in nature.
She follows our website. She coupons. She’s as frugal as they come, but she was beating herself up because they had a few major unexpected expenses that had left a balance on their credit card. She had made it a goal to end the year with no credit card debt, and was striving to pay off their vehicle which ultimately did not happen. So she felt she had let her family down. She, like so many women I know (please male readers, bare with me for a moment while I address our female readers specifically), was so hard on herself. She failed to see all of the progress she had made, instead opting to see where she fell just a little bit short.
We preach endlessly about saving money. Every Friday I post another set of frugal ideas. There are always new thrifty ideas to adopt and new ways to save money. There will ALWAYS be more we could be doing. We could beat ourselves up over all of the ways we could be better. PLEASE don’t!
After that chat with my friend, I shared a post with her I put up on my personal blog. With it being the season of resolutions, I thought it might be beneficial to share it with you:
The point of a New Year’s Resolution is to motivate us to better ourselves. So why do they always make me feel inadequate and pathetic. Perhaps if I would actually stick to them and follow through, the resulting feelings would be quite different. But this year I just don’t feel like setting myself up for failure. So I am taking a preemptive strike. I am making an odd resolution for the new year: to NOT make a New Year’s Resolution.
My resolution for this year is to just be. Be content just being me. Who I am. Right now. I am all about trying to better yourself and not becoming complacent or lazy, but 2011 will be a year of acceptance. I think in our haste to improve our lives, we forget to cherish who we are and what we have at this exact moment. We are always trying to move forward, be better, progress. Nothing wrong with that. But I get caught up in that and I forget, and this is as cliche as it comes, to live in the moment.
So no trying to be thinner, no longing to be wiser, no attempts to become richer. No desire to keep a cleaner house, to be a better cook, to learn a new skill. I don’t want to better at anything. I want to look at myself in the mirror, my life as it is right this very second and I just want to be.
And this may very well be the hardest resolution of my life.