Fab Family Fun: Motivating and Rewarding Children

What kind of rewards system do you use for your kids?  Or do you?  Here’s a cute idea I got from my mom to help make obedience a little more exciting!

Each time your child obeys, or does something you feel merits a reward, put 1 marshmallow or chocolate chip into a jar.  I’m using empty peanut butter containers.  If you’re using marshmallows, when it gets full, make Rice Krispy Treats.  If you’re using chocolate chips, when the container fills up, make chocolate chip cookies.


I used large marshmallows because my kids are small, and there are only two of them that could do this.  It took me 14 large marshmallows to fill up the jar.  In this case, I would let each of them put a marshmallow in the jar before bed if it had been an overall good day.  That way, it would take a week of good days to warrant a treat.  If I had more children, wanted to reward more things throughout the day, or wanted to lengthen the amount of time it takes to earn the treat, I would use mini marshmallows.

For the chocolate chips, I’d be rewarding every little thing in order to get the jar filled up in a reasonable amount of time.  So instead of just 1 chocolate chip, I would let the kids put in a small handful each time they deserved it.

What rewards systems work for you?


  • nikki

    That always worked when they were potty training, I need something for that wonderful 15 yr old boy! WOW!!!

  • Shuree

    When my kids do something nice or do something without being asked, they earn a ticket. At the end of the month we have a Family Movie Night. 10 tickets gets them into the show, 5 tickets buys them a bag of popcorn, 5 tickets buys them a candy bars, etc. My oldest down to my youngest love it!

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